Recently CNN posted an article, “The 12 most annoying types of Facebookers.“ Among those was one titled the “Bad Grammarian.” Now, I’m certainly not a grammar expert, I did OK in English classes growing up and in college, but I’m certainly not the first person you’d want proof-reading your writing. I’m terrible with commas and tend to have run-on sentences (which you may notice). But there are some things I just can’t overlook. The fact is, good or bad, we get a lot of information about the world, the news and our friends, acquaintances and business associates through Facebook status updates, tweets, and whatever other social media is hot that day. And it’s very true that your writing makes an impression about you to all the people who follow your updates. Now, I realize occasionally letters get transposed, or we forget a word here or there, everyone makes mistakes…but there are some things that you should just know. There are some mistakes I see repeatedly that I would like to address. These have become major pet peeves to me. Mainly the problem is the misuse of homonyms. I can’t tell you how many status updates, comments and tweets I see a day where the writer simply misuses words that sound the same. So, here is a quick run down of which word means what…
We’ll start with your and you’re. Your means possession, something that belongs to your or relates to you, “your car”, “your nose”, “your attitude”. You’re means you are. Say the sentence to yourself replacing your/you’re with “you are.” If it doesn’t make sense, then you use your. If it does make sense, then you’re is correct. A place I see this commonly misused is “your welcome.” Now, saying “your welcome” would be correct only if you are saying something like, “you’ve worn out your welcome.” But, in response to a thank you, “you’re welcome” is correct.
Next two, too and to. Two means 2, the number after 1 and before 3. Simple enough. Too means also, only use too if you could replace it with also. To is used any other time. Examples: “I’m going to the store”, “I’m going to eat dinner”, “I’m going to give the letter to my friend”, “To all the girls I’ve loved before”, “To whom it may concern.” You get the picture. If it’s not the number and it’s not also, then it’s to.
Now, they’re, their and there. They’re means they are. If you can’t replace the word they’re with they are, then don’t use it. Their means possession or relating to someone. Example: “That is their car”, “Anyone in their right mind”. And finally there, it’s used pretty much any other time. If you can’t say they are and you’re not indicating possession, then there is your correct choice. It’s usually used to indicate a place or a point of reference. Examples: “Go over there”, “We’re going there after dinner”, “Stop right there before you say something you’ll regret.”
Finally, people are afraid of the word me. For instance, someone posts a picture on Facebook and adds the caption “Betty, Judy, Freda and I at the lake.” I is not the correct word to use here, you can use me. I think that we’re taught to use I when we’re little and then assume that me can never be used again. But an easy way to remember whether to use I or me is to take everyone else out of the sentence. You wouldn’t say, “I at the lake,” you’d say “Me at the lake.” So once you remove everyone else, you’ll know whether to use I or me. “Betty, Judy, Freda and me at the lake.” Also, there is no such word as “I’s”. For example, I’ve seen people say, “Come over to Cindy and I’s house.” Don’t ever say that, that just sounds silly. The correct word is “my”.
As I said, I’m certainly NOT a grammar expert, nothing even close, but these are just a few little things that I see so often on in my online-social life. Things that are easily fix-able and will help your professionalism online.
-Stephanie Benedict